Don't Make These 5 Common Childcare Blunders

Parents tend to make the same five mistakes when it comes to childcare. Lynn Perkins, CEO and Co-Founder of UrbanSitter.com, helps you avoid them.

A good sitter is hard to find. And just as tough to keep. Up the odds of hiring a gem who’ll stick with you for the long haul by avoiding these all-too-common blunders.

1. Setting unclear expectations.

The first time you meet with a new babysitter or nanny, you will likely discuss primary responsibilities, such as hours and pay requirements. Make sure you also discuss your day-to-day expectations, including discipline style, what he or she will do in case of an emergency--be sure to have a clear plan in place, including key contact numbers--and how and when you expect to be notified when there's a non-emergency problem at home.

Be frank about secondary job expectations that could easily make or break the relationship if you aren't on the same page. Examples include expectations for cooking, cleaning, and miscellaneous errands.

Make sure you are also upfront about the employment commitment you are expecting. Are you looking for someone who will ideally stay with your family for years or is this is a short-term gig? Neither of you can predict the future, but you'll want to know if she’s planning a long trip in a few months, for instance.

2. Failing to treat your provider with respect.

You can show your respect by keeping the lines of communication clear and open, and asking that they do the same. This includes remembering that everyone has days when they are running late -- but limiting these and make sure you give as much notice as possible. Her time is as important as yours. And insist that your children show the sitter as much respect as you do.

Also, remember to demonstrate to your children that the nanny or babysitter is in charge when you are away. If your child asks you when you are walking out the door if he can go to the park after lunch, let him know that the nanny will be in charge then, and she will make that decision. Likewise, if you come home from work and your childcare provider has restricted the child from doing something, support that decision. Show you appreciate and respect the babysitter's authority with your children.