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Keep It Simple When you talk to your child, let her know that if there is anything you can absolutely guarantee, it is that time passes. And, as each day progresses, the nervousness will lessen. Kukulj says that in his years of experience, most children start to feel comfortable in their new surroundings by the morning of the second day. Having gotten through their first day is a real morale booster. Imagine possible scenarios she will face in those first hours and then, together, brainstorm some ways of handling them. For example, while hiking and swimming are great fun, it's at night that the absence of familiar surroundings is painfully felt. Come up with a plan for how she will deal with it when those inevitable feelings of homesickness begin to well up. These coping tricks needn't be elaborate or even expensive. They are often small tokens and gestures that will provide some sorely needed comfort to sad and lonely hearts. For example, provide her with stacks of stationery or a new journal, so that she can put her feelings to paper. Or, send pictures of family, friends, or a beloved pet that she can keep tucked away for reassurance.
Keep It Light Ultimately, it's the dialogue that will provide comfort - for both of you! While talking shop about camp is a great way to address any insecurities your child may have, listening is important, too. In the days leading up to departure, allow your child to speak openly and honestly about her fears. Indeed, some of the best chats can take place before your youngster even reaches the fireside. Above all, be positive! Keep your conversations light and hopeful, continually affirming your belief that your child's experience at camp will be a good one. Remind her that these kinds of experiences will make her stronger and give her a taste of independence and responsibility. Let her know that you are proud of her and that you feel strongly that, not only will she overcome the challenges that face her, but that she'll return with many wonderful tales, and maybe even a few, new friends, too!
For Parents Only What is painful for kids can be conflicting for parents. It's hard to not jump in there and try to make it all better. Unfortunately, by doing so, you may make things worse. The following are some helpful ground rules for parents:
- Resist the urge to "baby" your baby. You and she will feel better by expecting the best from her. - If the facility does not permit visits or limits phone calls, follow the rules. - According to Kukulj, one of the worst things you can do is to linger for a long and tearful goodbye. He advises: "Drop ¡¥em off, give them a high five, and go..." - If you must pick up your "unhappy" camper early, don't shame or scold her. Praise her for trying her best.
